Wholeness Within: What It Truly Means to Live a Fully Integrated Life


“Integrity is when all the parts of you agree with each other.” – Michael Singer

We live in a world of fragments—fragmented time, fragmented relationships, fragmented identities. We juggle so many roles: partner, parent, professional, seeker, friend. Often, these roles pull us in different directions until we feel like we’re living multiple lives instead of one whole, sacred life.

But deep down, there’s a quiet yearning that whispers, “There must be more. There must be a way to live as one whole person.”
That’s the call to live a fully integrated life.

In this post, we’ll explore what that really means, why it matters so much—especially for those walking a spiritual path—and how you can begin aligning your inner and outer worlds into one radiant, authentic existence.

What Does It Mean to Live a Fully Integrated Life?

At its heart, integration is living in alignment with your deepest truth. It means that the “you” who meditates, prays, reflects, and journals is the same “you” who runs a business, speaks to clients, engages with family, and makes decisions.

There’s no mask, no pretending, no switching between spiritual and secular—there’s just you, whole and honest in every space.

Living an integrated life is the soul’s version of exhaling. You finally stop hiding, stop performing, and begin being.

The Pain of a Fragmented Life

Before we talk about integration, let’s look at what it’s not.

Here are signs you might be living a fragmented life:

  • You feel like one person at work and a completely different person at home.

  • You say yes when your soul screams no—just to avoid conflict or please others.

  • You value peace and presence, but your lifestyle is driven by hustle and noise.

  • You constantly feel like something’s “off,” but can’t put your finger on it.

  • You’re exhausted from holding up an image that doesn’t reflect who you really are.

This kind of split existence drains your energy and silences your inner voice. It’s like trying to steer a boat with multiple rudders all going in different directions.

Living a Fully Integrated Life Looks Like...

Let’s flip the script and explore what wholeness really looks like:

1. Alignment Between Inner Beliefs and Outer Actions

You live out your values. If you believe in compassion, you speak kindly to the waiter. If you believe in honesty, you’re transparent with your clients. There’s no gap between what you believe and how you behave.

2. Harmony Across All Areas of Life

You’re not chasing spiritual insight while neglecting your physical body, or building a business while ignoring your emotional wellbeing. Each area—mind, body, spirit, work, family—is given its sacred place in your life rhythm.

3. You Are the Same Person Everywhere

Whether you're coaching a client, walking your dog, sitting in meditation, or speaking with your partner—you carry the same integrity, warmth, and awareness.

4. Wholeness Over Perfection

You don’t have to have it all figured out. Integration is not about being flawless—it’s about being real, honest, and authentic. You welcome every part of yourself: your doubts, wounds, hopes, and victories.

5. Sacred Living

You stop separating life into “spiritual” and “normal.” Everything becomes sacred—doing laundry, sending emails, drinking tea. You begin to live as Spirit in human form.

A Real-Life Example: The Coach Who Found Her Soul Again

One of my clients (let’s call her Julia) came to me feeling deeply unsettled. She was a life coach like myself, guiding others with wisdom, but secretly battling burnout and disconnection.

She loved nature, journaling, and quiet contemplation—but had built her business around fast-paced hustle culture. Every day felt like wearing a mask.

In our work together, she realized she was living out someone else’s blueprint for success, not her own.

We worked to realign her coaching style to her deeper truth—slower, more soulful sessions, a shift from performance-based marketing to storytelling, and the creation of a sacred morning ritual.

Her business didn’t just survive—it flourished. And more importantly, she felt whole again.

5 Steps to Begin Living a Fully Integrated Life

Here are five practical yet spiritual steps you can take right now:

✨ 1. Clarify Your Core Values

What matters most to you? Peace? Creativity? Justice? Simplicity? Write them down. Use them as your internal compass when making decisions.

“When your values are clear, your decisions are easy.” – Roy Disney

✨ 2. Identify Where You Feel Out of Alignment

Ask yourself:

  • Where am I living out of sync with my values?

  • What part of my life feels “off” or out of place?

  • What masks am I still wearing?

Don’t judge—just notice. Awareness is the beginning of healing.

✨ 3. Make Small Realignments

You don’t need to burn everything down. Integration is a gentle process. Start with small shifts:

  • Speak one more truth today.

  • Say “no” where you usually say “yes.”

  • Take 5 minutes to connect with your soul before diving into work.

✨ 4. Create a Sacred Routine

Begin and end your day with presence. It can be prayer, silence, breathwork, or reading sacred texts. This anchors your identity in Spirit before the world pulls at you.

✨ 5. Invite All Parts of You to the Table

That scared part of you? The angry one? The wounded inner child? The mystic? The visionary?

They all belong.

Integration means no part of you is left behind.

Wisdom Across Traditions

  • Christian Mysticism teaches us that “In Him we live and move and have our being.” (Acts 17:28). Integration is living from this truth, not just visiting it on Sundays.

  • Kabbalah speaks of Tikkun, the healing of the fragmented self by returning to Divine Oneness.

  • Vedanta reminds us that Atman (the inner self) and Brahman (the Universal Self) are one. Integration is realizing that unity and living from it.

  • Buddhism offers the practice of mindfulness—simply being aware, moment by moment, of what is true and real within.

All these paths point us toward the same truth: you are whole already—the journey is about remembering.

A Gentle Invitation

Fanus, maybe it’s time for you—or your clients—to ask:

“Where in my life am I fragmented? And what is my soul longing to bring back into harmony?”

You don’t have to do it alone. This is exactly what I help my clients explore—through deep conversations, spiritual tools, and practical coaching.

Ready to Start?

👉 Download your free checklist:
“Am I Living a Fully Integrated Life?”
– A self-assessment with next steps to begin your journey of wholeness.

👉 Schedule a free coaching session to explore how we can walk this path together.

Let your life be a reflection of your soul, not your survival.
You are meant to live whole, free, and powerfully true.

With heart and purpose,
Fanus du Plooy
Transitional Life & Empowerment Coach
📞 084 518 6780
📩 coach@fanusduplooy.co.za
🌐 www.fanusduplooy.co.za


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